Coming from a guy who has been single and dating the majority of his life, should make him a professional at break-ups.  But really this is me giving myself advice so while I’m at it, may I share my thoughts with you? 

Are you guys in a toxic cycle? Repeating bad behaviours? Is your situation not working itself out?  Our mental health, addiction and/or codependency may contribute to this.  Consider making new choices.  Start small and work towards your independence.  Feel what its like to be you again!

Ghosting.  Not cool.  We’re basically all just avoiding the inevitable.  We’re not feeling the connection so we don’t feel the need to address the bad news.  But not addressing the elephant in the room, makes YOU the asshole.  I can’t say we’re all guilty of it, but I guarantee you know what I’m talking about.  


Face the facts and “man up” as the sexist term goes.  Grow some “balls” and just let the other person know what’s up.  Easy as that.  Think of it as karma.  If you don’t want to be ghosted, then don’t ghost!  I think if you’ve been on more than a few dates and had sex, you should be honest with that person.   Hashtag-justdoit

The Text.  Just don’t do it.  Texts are like thoughts we can’t speak out loud.  Easy to hide behind.  Half the time we don’t mean what we text.  Have you ever read someone’s text back to them? It’s embarrassing.  And if that’s the case, it should never have been in a text in the first place.  They should teach this shit in school.  Communication etiquette.  


The thoughts of doubt have been brewing or the trust isn’t there or their words don’t match their actions.  Whatever the case may be, try to allow yourself the time you need before making rational decisions to break-up.  However you choose to do it, it still sucks.   

1. Assess The Situation

The thoughts of doubt have been brewing or the trust isn’t there or their words don’t match their actions.  Whatever the case may be, try to allow yourself the time you need before making rational decisions to break-up.  However you choose to do it, it still sucks.

2. Pick up the phone or do it in person

Maybe because I’m turning 40 and still care about showing some respect to someone you spent some time getting to know.  Most people want to avoid confrontation.  But honesty is the key to life.  I say if you’ve been out more than three times and slept together…pick up the phone at least.  Consider it good karma.  Karma you want on your side in the dating world. 

3. Take a break

I know this sounds ridiculous for a short lived relationship or one-night stand for that matter, but if you’re sleeping around or looking for a rebound, do yourself a favor and cleanse your sexual space for at least 7-days to 7-weeks.  Consider it an energetic cleanse.  You don’t want karmic STD. 

4. Get back in shape

Nothing screams revenge like getting back in shape and into your body! You’ll feel much better about yourself.  Muster up any type of physical activity (that isn’t sex) to keep your daily mojo in check. 

5. Shift Alt Delete

And if all else fails, it is time to block! You want to remove the temptation to repeat bad habits and choices of out feeling stuck in something toxic.  Block is my favourite tool on the internet.  It’s too bad there are so many god damn platforms to find people now! I found my ex still following me on Pinterest.  BLOCK.  When did we ever add people on Pinterest? Sounds like a 90’s thing.  I miss Myspace.